The Path to Happy
It's true what they say... Happiness IS a choice!
Life happens... that's a fact.
It's how you choose to handle it and it can either make you or break you. We all fall down, but will you get up again? Will you let the fall break your spirit or build it?
Everyone goes through hard times. I don't care if you WERE born with that silver spoon in your mouth or not. You still go through hard times. As humans, for whatever reason, at points in our lives we look at other people and feel jealousy, not happiness for the other person. It's vital for you to make an active choice to go against feelings of jealousy, hatred, guilt, envy, less and less... and INSTEAD to feel love, admiration, and compassion for others. This honestly isn't for anyone else, but YOURSELF.
Jealousy, hatred, envy, guilt and continued sadness can cast such a dark shadow over your happiness, your potential, your spirit, over who you really are and were meant to be. That dark shadow is casting over the bright light you have to offer the world. Now, you are having these feelings because you are unhappy with some or multiple areas in your life. If you were happy... you wouldn't care. How can I say this?? Because I was there! I was unhappy, and jealous of others' lives, relationships, etc. because I WAS UNHAPPY in mine! This is a defensive mechanism that we use to make ourselves feel better in the lives we're living. So STOP those negative thoughts towards others, that really have to do with YOU! You have to stop letting your unhappiness take control and darken you. You probably think you are hiding it from others but you aren't! TRUST ME!
Nice try on trying to cover things up, but stop and start using that same energy to FIX IT... to fix YOU! Don't change who you are, but let that bright light that shines within you show the beautiful person you are. Keeping your true self from others is just a DAMN CRIME!
So, are you ready to move on from the B.S. that pulls you down? SWEET!
Okay... well NOW WHAT?!
Here are 3 steps to help you find your path to happy:
Choose happiness
Find and grab onto YOUR passion
Kick self-sabotage and doubt in the pants
Now, you might look at this and go psshhhh... Okay, how in the the H-E-DOUBLE-L am I suppose to do that?? Well, it IS possible... now, STOP DOUBTING SHIT ALREADY!! This was joking and not joking at the same time! LOL, winky, smiley, hug, kissy-face, the whole 9 yards!
Just like when you've given up any bad habit that you did often, it took a while to stop that habit. Well, bad vibes, bad feelings, etc. IS a BAD HABIT TOO! And just like any bad habit.. IT MUST BE BROKEN! Psshhhh.. easy! Umm... NO, it isn't easy but obtainable and sustainable... YES!
Let's start with the first one and MOST IMPORTANT...
Choose happiness. You can choose to focus on the bad or you can choose to focus on the good. You can look at what you don't have or you can look at what you DO have. You can look at someone who is doing good and acknowledge it, even looking up to them about a particular thing that you'd like more of in your own life and let yourself learn from this person. We can be so damned stubborn sometimes and our brains are like... "I have to hate on what this person is doing because I wish I had that in my life and I don't!" "If I let that ordinary person (like me) who is not some goddess or movie star be an example... that means I've failed." Again... STOP IT! Do NOT let that brain of yours make your heart feel bad about yourself!
Damn brains just think TOO much! Hehe!
Just know that they might be good at this one thing that maybe you might need to work on, and that's OK! I'm sure they need to work on some things that you might have a better handle on than they do. Team work! Learning and growing from one another is key and can I say ... B-E-A-U-tiful!!
Now, I want you to imagine you are with Peter Pan right now (LOVE this story and it's message) and you both have sprinkled some sparkly, shiny, light, gorgeous fairy dust on you, for your heart to soar, fly and feel free with happiness, positive vibes, compassion, admiration... joy! Do it! Sprinkle that shiz'nit all over ya!
So, you've chosen happiness... YEAAAH!! Okay, then... moving onward and upward to find and grab onto YOUR passion!! What in the WORLD do I mean by this? What makes you smile, that you do for yourself? What makes you tick? What in the double-hockey-sticks is YOUR PURPOSE?? Even if you have chosen happiness but don't find your passion, your purpose... you will relapse in your happiness quest. DON'T DO IT! If you do what you love in life, you will be empowered, ALIVE, fulfilled,
AND drumroll please..... HAPPIER!
SAY WHAT??!
Ummm, yeah! If you love what you do and it fills up your purpose and passion gauge, you will, in turn, be happier, your family will be happier BECAUSE, if you are happy, then they will be. When you're around a happy, smiling person, does it become infectious? YES, YES it DOES! Same with bad ju ju. That shiz'nit is toxic and spreads like a damn disease.
**Put your protective mask on and exit the infected area, NOW***
Sweet, we are ALMOST THERE!! Time to kick it up and out with kicking self-sabotage and doubt in the pants. HEYYY-OOOO! So, I need you to notice that in order to go for your passion, your purpose, you HAVE TO KICK THE SELF-SABOTAGE AND DOUBT IN THE PANTS. How in the world are you going to be successful in being happy if you keep yourself from what you love, enjoy, and what gives you pep in your step because of self-sabotage and/or self-doubt??
Examples of self-sabotage... "I have to get in shape to work out"... WHAT?? For REAL, I have heard this one before, but really think about it. Aren't you working out TO GET IN SHAPE?? Just sayin'! You don't have to start by running a 5 billion mile marathon right off the bat, but you do need to start SOMEWHERE and then you can build from that, one step at a time!
Example of self-doubt... "I can't do this. I want to go for my dreams but they won't happen even if I try, so what is the point?"
Uhh... NOPE! STOP RIGHT THERE!
These are limiting beliefs that ONLY YOU are creating. If you had to get out of a burning house, would you do it?! Then WHY, if you are trying to do something beneficial for your life, your health and family... wouldn't you save yourself from unhappiness?? Just like you would run out of that house, why not go for your happiness with that same intensity? You will survive by not changing a damn thing, yes... but are you just surviving or living the life you want?
Why survive, when you can thrive??
In order to be successful, you HAVE TO STOP YOUR negative doubts! Stop those wanna-be negative brain thoughts and tell yourself good things. I'm about to bring it back right now, BUT remember Thomas the train? I think I can, I think I can. Same idea!
Well, YOU ARE ON THE PATH TO HAPPY! Welcome aboard! Continue to follow these steps and you will find yourself becoming more and more happy.
THANKS FOR READING!
I hope you enjoyed this read and that it helps your path to happy.
Good vibes & much love!
Sometimes, we need some extra help and that's OK! I am here to help you as your Inspirational Life Coach! I offer a 30-Minute Strategy Session to start working towards the life you want to live and your path to happy, but SPACE IS LIMITED! So go ahead and click on the link to get your self scheduled, when it works best for YOU!
