Surviving to Now Thriving

So, this picture you see is me becoming utterly enlightened about myself, with tears of joy.  A true breakthrough on why I was continuing a pattern of holding back in my life. We are the way we are for a reason; a lot of the time, we don't even know the reason anymore -- because we have just lived one way for so long, we believe it is just how we are. But is it really?

Making a breakthrough with yourself and realizing why you have been a certain way for so long and just couldn't realize why?  Why am I like this? Why do I do this? Why can't I stop?  These are all valid questions to ask yourself.  It's hard to figure out why you continue to do the things you hate or dislike but you seem to always revert back to. 

So now, I want YOU to take a moment... (I'll wait...) and figure out what it is you dislike about yourself.  I am NOT looking for... "Well, I don't like my gray hairs, etc."  I want REAL things, not superficial ones!  Real things that are inside you, something second-nature you resort to, that you do not like about yourself.  This thing seems to get in the way of you being happier and is holding you back.  Something that you could prevent, but just haven't been able to. Search within yourself RIGHT NOW and find that thing you dislike... Got it?  Okay, good!  Told you I'd wait! 

There is something in your past that had you become this way.  Something in your life that made you feel the need to protect yourself.  The need to suppress something about yourself that was good, but you became a product of your environment or you were just trying to be loved.

Whatever it is... it served you in some way.  Thank yourself for taking care of you!  You did such a great job taking care of your little self as a child...

To be loved, to be accepted, to be protected.

Whatever the case may be, there was a reason.  But now, you are no longer that child, it no longer serves you in your life.  You were surviving then, but now... NOW... you must THRIVE!

It's time to make a choice! Decide if you will continue on the path that once served you, but now gets in your way.

 Are ready for a change?! Continue on with these steps: 

1. Of course, first, you really need to have a grasp on what you dislike and what you always seem to go back to out of habit. 
2. Next, acknowledge how it served you in the past.  How did it help you survive? How did it help you feel loved? etc.?
3. Once you have really recognized why and what you did in the past, you need to know how it helped you to survived. Now, thank yourself.  Thank that little self inside you who dealt with this thing the only way he/she knew how.  Although you were so little, you were also so resilient, so determined, and what a little warrior you needed to become.  You have continued to be that warrior.  You will ALWAYS, ALWAYS have that.  It will always be inside you, but now... now, it is no longer serving you. 
4. Now you need to decide... Are you ready for more?  Ready for a new chapter?  A new journey? Ready for a new way of living, where you are thriving?  Your new way of living comes with joy, happiness and extreme growth.  Doesn't that sound amazing?  It does, doesn't it?  Well, it is! 
5. Once, you've gone through these steps, and I mean not just reading through them, BUT truly reflecting on them, only then you can whole-heartedly be ready for change. 
6.  Now that you have reflected, have discovered, you will begin to grow with the knowledge and can start to break away from what once served you.  Start to envision what you want to happen from here on out, how you want life to be, etc. and begin to work towards that!
7. Start jotting down what that this new you looks like, what you want to happen, and what needs to happen for you to be truly happy.

Now, it's time to move forward and start implementing those things.  It is time to grow with the knowledge about yourself, that you really never recognized.  How are you going to react the next time?  How can you stop yourself if you feel you're going back to your old ways?  How can you set yourself up for success? 

If you feel like you've been able to relate to this post, but feel you need more help then just the reading...  I can help you with more insight, more guidance, as with a FREE Strategy Session & Life Coaching services.

I help others work through their past to get to where or what they want for their future.  If you want true changes, true discovery, true enlightenment and you know there is more out there for you but you don't know what... let me help you get there!  Visit my coaching page for more information and fill out the form if you're interested in becoming a better version of yourself! 

Sarah Lacko

Inspirational Life Coach, Healthy Lifestyle Coach & founder of Inspired Vida.